Letter of introduction,

About 20 months after my divorce I had my life on the rail and was settled again. Because in the country in Eastern Europa where I went contact with locals was difficult and I decided to try dating sites.

After a week I estimated that 85% was fraud, cheat and all was about collecting money. I started to file my contacts and log my chats. A few weeks later my 85% was gone up to 90% and in some countries even 95%.

In this book I reveal my search for love and how I discovered and disguised complete criminal behaviour that worldwide leads to theft and the practice of fraud on an imaginary scale and very likely in tens of millions of dollars.

All names are fake though the stories are recorded and true. In some cases spellings corrections have been omitted because of the use of ethnic slang and foreign languages.

I hope you will enjoy reading this book and I am absolute sure that potential visitors of dating sites shall have a benefit of this manuscript.

Denzel Dupree

LOVE OR AND SYMBIOSES

This article gives you an insight in the various reasons why young beautiful girls many times marry a far older and very often unattractive man.

To inform you where and how I did acquire the information I have to give you my own experience coz I was married 15 years with a 23 younger pretty Asian woman. During those years I met hundreds so not thousands of mixed marriages like mine. I saw these couples in my house on parties in Western Europe and visited their homes.

One night, in a bar that had 90% clients from Asian countries and had an Asian owner I noticed a girl very attractive, walking very straight and looked as if she had a lot of confidence. I said to the Asian female owner, good friend of me, that’s really a beautiful girl. She brought us together and we talked a lot, she was fluent in English with even a little snobbish Oxford accent.

Next evening I went there again curious to talk with her once more. During our conversation an older Asian woman came to her and said I have an urgent telephone call for you. Her house was 50 meters away around the corner.

The girl left and came back half an hour later, in tears. I asked what was wrong and the story came out that her mother had a severe kidney infection and unless the kidney was removed at the price of 3000 USD she would die within 2-3 days.

The girl worked in the evening at the bar and asked the owner if she could borrow the money. The owner had no reserves and could not. She then phoned to her other boss, she had another job in the daytime, and asked him for the money, 3000 USD to borrow from him. He did not, may be he did not want or did not have I don’t know. Lots of people ask money for imaginary disasters and those people in general are very inventive to come up with reasons. To make the story short, no money, no way.

As I was a successful businessman that time and made an awful lot of money and spent a lot for fun, I told here, come to my office tomorrow morning 8 am I will lent you the money and you see whenever you pay me back.

She did money was sent and mother survived.

Our conversation that started 2 days ago turned in to a relation and little more than a week later she moved in with me.

That year we went to her country and we married in church there and next spring we married officially in my country and she became my legal wife. As she had 2 kids we tried for 5 years to get them here, and we had to move to another European country with different rules to get them there.

The children, small were fluent in English and very fast learned to speak the language of the country we were.

My wife was very active in the Asian church and singing there and a member of the board. This resulted that my house was like a foreign embassy and almost always there were visitors from Asia asking for all kinds of advice and help.

In this way I received an enormous amount of information and that’s why I do have quite an insight in the way people live with their partners. My wife was a counselor and many times was asked to help in cases when there were problems in the relations.

This was a short intro, it was far more complicated, of where and how I got the information I now am going to pass on to you.

I met my wife in Europe.

Lots of men are traveling to Asia to find a bride. There is a motivation for the man to do so, and there is a motivation for the girl or woman to do so.

If both motivations are both ways satisfied, you might turn up with a relation. It is not necessary love, it is a symbioses. Both have needs and both ways the needs are fulfilled. There is some kind of balance and harmony. We are still in the situation in Asia or Africa or South America. There is no difference where this happens, the way is always the same.

Let us take a look at the different motivations and start with the man, like in a normal marriage in any country why takes a man a wife.

Very few reasons, the most important one, very simple, sex. If he does not get the desired portion of it or not the way he wants it he will run. Second reason, for lots of men, food. If he does not have his meal in a decent way there is trouble. Last reason, most man need a house wife. I simplified marriage here to much and I do know there are more factors involved but if a woman does not comply with these three things there is trouble.

Let us look at the motivations of the female part. This is far more complicated. First and most important reason, and without this, the relation very likely will even never start, money. Woman in the third world feel a strong responsibility for their children if present, their parents and even the rest of the family, meaning

Money!! If she can marry and is secured to be able to send a little bit of money every month, the family will survive. You may look like a movie star if this is not possible it will be very unlikely you will find a bride, exceptions of course are there. But in general, “no money no honey”.

Second reason, the man in the third word especially the young ones have no responsibility whatever, they start a relation, make children and are gone. The amount of single mothers is immense. The men drink, let the women do heavy work, in the fields or any kind of job, while they are hanging around with friends, booze, gambling but again in general not busy with their family. So the girls prefer an older relaxed responsible man, who got rid of his wild hairs.

What kind of man is looking for a bride in one of these countries? And what type of girl or woman?

Lets start with the man. And again this is in general there always are different cases. There are man that prefer third world woman, Asian or Brazilian, or Dominican, personal preference. Nothing wrong with that.

But now I come to the main part of this group. I discussed this many times with an old friend, married to an Asian for over 20 years, wise, experienced and our total IQ together is over 300. He is well studied and not just someone I picked up in a bar.

Our conviction is that a large number, very large, and I am not going to pin myself down with a percentage, of all these man are without any reasonable chance of finding a girl in their own country. Certainly not a young and beautiful one. The majority are gray, dull guys with no status, low education, low income and a conversation on any level is impossible with them. I know with the majority of the girls a discussion of the annihilation of gravity is not an option but these men very ofter will not have a three digit IQ.

I know that lots of these man save years to go in one of these countries and play the rich Bon Vivant, misleading every one with their material status and making up stories. I know of a guy who did this and was kicked to death when he could not comply with his lies.

They make promises and parents even advice their daughter to marry the good catch. Once gone to the new country very often the deception is there, not a big house, not a big car, and more important not a big income. So sending money, if not discussed before is a problem and leads to discussions and even fights and aggression. So it is in many times not an escape from poverty to heaven. The man has simply misled everyone with his savings.

There now are governments in Western Europe where you can, even when legally married, only import your bride when your income is 20% above minimum income, if not, no way to get her in.

So many times the man is not the same man as he was playing in the girls country.

I have numerous stories of girls flying to a guy and total deception on arrival, they have a complete other image in there head based on stories and misleading information and photographs. Many times the man sells himself as if he is selling a second hand car, little polish to make it shine, make the tires black, put some perfume in the interior to make it smell nice and give some worthless attributes for free.

The girls, I already described have few possibilities in their country. On the dating sites they call you love, honey, baby, dear and so on in the first conversation. They love you ”Intense”, though never met you, never felt you, never smelled you. Like the men 90% cheat, the pictures are from 5 years ago and their weight is 10-20 kilo more and when you see them on cam it is often very clear. Here most of them go only for the money and very few are really looking for a partner. In their homelands they have to show up and cannot mislead and say I am 40 kilo while showing 60+. The reason for the relation is money again and some will say I will marry you provided you sent every month that amount to my family. Business deal simple.

Basic this is honest and as married once is explained as being a legal way of prostitution this is acceptable. Sometimes the man is seen as a father figure and some respecting way of love grows, the mother like “feelings” of taking care. I have seen girls taking care of their old man, deteriorating physical and mental, showing a Florence Nightingale syndrome till he died.

Love can have strange ways, young woman can love a man because of his talents, he might be a good violin player or painter. I now of an old painter, not sexually active, who lived with eight woman in perfect harmony. If the love for someone finds it roots in adoration, there is no jealousy, look at football or music between fans there is no hate when you all do love the same person or team, love is strengthened, and they all will go to the end for there idols and give their life for them. Even loving together the same person, in these cases the love of one individual strengthens the love of the other. Its like shared fun is bigger fun than being alone.

For the girl one more reason is obvious and I have seen the proof of it many times. The problem is even bigger for the lonely mothers, they need money for the child as well. This makes the relation even more complex.

Coming back from their new country on holyday they tell their family that life is ok and they hide their problems and shame. They will never admit it is a disaster.

Comparable to the Thai people, as a Thai, he or she will never tell you he does not know the way when asked, and will sent you in any direction, even the wrong one but never will say I don’t know, because that is a shame.

After being married and sacrifies for 3-5 years depending of the country the woman becomes the nationality of the country she lives in.

Then there is no longer a reason to stay with the man, and she divorces him very many times.

She is free and will have social security or takes a job that allows her to sent more money.

Many marriages stop and the party is over for the man, The girl gets her money or takes a job and what is more strange if she ever remarries it hardly ever is an old man this time. Because she became Western minded.

In the Ukraine, old part of Russia, some 20 years ago just after there independence it was possible for a one-legged, one-eyed, bold 70 year old man to marry a 20 year old beauty. Now they are Westernized and the age difference is like in all the European countries no more than about maximum 20 years and not 40 or 50. It slowly will equalize over the world as poverty we hope will disappear

So we see that there are multiple reasons for love and as long both parties are satisfied and there is harmony we have the perfect symbioses.

Once the motivation from one of the two is disturbed the harmony is gone and very likely marriage will end in divorce.

Sometimes the pen pall arrives by plane after 30 hours of travel, being awaited by a horny man thinking of only one thing. At home many guys want to go to bed with the very tired girl. Here he creates right away the first night a problem already. The girl is sexually many times unexperienced, because of the often religious background and not sexual compatible with the more experienced older man, who has certain expectations about what he is going to receive. And very many times he will force her to do things she never even heard of. No time to let her get used and do for her the job of information her parents or educative system should have done for her. Unless she worked before in a bar, dependent from what country, she is not sexually educated with less knowledge than a 12 years old in Europe.

All these factors lead in practice to lots of problems for both sides, and unless both parties are willing to do submissions there are two possibilities, divorce or an unhappy life till passport is acquired.

A relative small percentage leads a really true happy life.

AIRCRASH

BUZZ!!!

Denzel:
hi do we know

hotalana36:
???

Denzel:
were you the girl on Dustin Riebers party last Saturday

hotalana36:
Nope

hotalana36:
u meet me from date site

Denzel:
ok now l remember last Saturday I was drunk at DR s party

hotalana36:
ok

Denzel:
where U now

hotalana36:
Maple park Illinois and you?

Denzel:
East Europe

hotalana36:
ok nice Europe

Denzel:
where you have your roots

hotalana36:
USA and Nigeria

hotaana36:
and you?

Denzel:
West Europe

hotalana36:
ok

Denzel:
I am from Western Europe your mother from Nigeria or your father?

hotalana36:
one of them

Denzel:
yeah good deduction, fast thinking, high IQ?
(Good for TV quiz!!)

hotalana36:
ok my father was killed in a plane crash

Denzel:
sorry to hear

Denzel:
Last time you mailed me you were white Caucasian, changed overnight?

Hotalana36:
You had nice blond long hair and you were widow, sorry you had gene reconstructions? or genetical manipulations? may be, or both?

hotalana36:
Ok

Denzel:
are you guy or woman?

Denzel:
Sorry I am Curious

Denzel:
can we cam or it happens to be broken or not properly configurated like always in these Cases
(Ghanese fraud this is always)

hotalana36:
i don’t use cam

Denzel:
Some pictures with this text 4 my book would be nice

Denzel:
ok no pics you use sound, we can talk, i do have recordings with my book

Denzel:
may be some dirty talk, you like, I just saw on a website

Denzel:
we are with 5 people herewe are almost giving you your IP and address

***hotelana36 leaves the talk***

This is a typical Ghanese talk, parents are always mixed races from any different countries in the world. All the dead people from Ghanese mixed races who died through plane crashes I was told in 3 months are counting over 50. Calculated over the whole world, there are more dead fathers and mothers (always Ghanese relations) due to plane crashes than the whole Ghanese population together, it must be millions. I wonder why this is kept a secret. Very likely nobody will take a Ghanese plane no more if published. Another strange thing is why the one that survives the plane crash goes to Ghana. A very low annual income there, bad infrastructure, it would be the last country in the world I personally would settle down. There are far more nicer places on earth.

CIELO

This story comes from an old friend who worked for over 15 years in Asia and knows all the bad and good qualities of the people there. The story is a remarkable one and not the first and only of that kind. Cases like this occur all over the world. His report is as follows,

On one of my flights from Manila to Hamburg, Germany I met Cielo.

We met before in one of the bars that I frequented in the tourist belt of Manila.

Cielo was the average Philippina girl not exceptional beautiful but attractive and very friendly.

At my question where she was going to she told me she had a pen pall for over a year in Germany and she was going to visit him.

The man told her he was manager of a supermarket and she showed me some pictures from a seemingly tall guy in front of a big new car. He was supposed to be her new future.

Leaving the plane we passed the customs and I went with her to the meeting point. And there he was and may be 165 centimeter and absolutely not handsome. Cielo’s face showed a disappointment in a way she could not hide.

Then we went outside and she invited me to come with her.

The parking place brought an even bigger disappointment, instead of a bright new big car, there was an old small car may be 15 years old or more. Anyway it bumped and jumped us to his appartement in a big building, old and bad maintained.

His living place was not much better than his car and the disillusion was covering the always pretty smiling face.

I did drink an instant solution called coffee, called a taxi and promised to visit her in a few days.

Three days later I phoned her and arranged to pass by.

I found her in tears on the couch. His job as manager at the supermarket was filling the shelving and the dream was complete gone.

She slept on the couch and not with him, there was no attraction what so ever, while he wanted her in bed for sex.

It took three more weeks of misery and vocal fights to evade the small horny guy before she was able to book the trip back to Manila.

The tragedy of this story is not implemented in her name, Cielo is a Spanish name, meaning.....Heaven.

In this case, as in so many stories I heard like this one, the name Heaven is not applicable.